the others

i would contend that i am someone not easily offended and for that reason i am particularly interested in what behaviors in others cross that line.

this year i have come across two: the stingy and the overly-dependent.

its the latter that took me awhile to diagnose, wondering why i couldn't stop bristling at what these people are doing or saying. turns out that i simply do not have patience with people who do not make efforts to achieve their desires—whether that be an amazing career or as simple as another round of drinks.

you can't close your eyes and hope the world does what you want.
and its rude to expect those around you to make it happen for you.

there is a canoe metaphor in there somewhere that i simply do not have the attention span to develop.

needless to say, it was an eye opening discovery with a rainbow of grey muddling around it. it explains a lot, creates a lot and requires a lot from me in the coming months. it is an excellent reminder of the kind of person i want to be and a new way to observe those around me.