your friends

today i was wondering what people see when they look at each other.
of course, specifically what people see when they look at me.

and not just the superficial and cliche.

examples

• its come to my attention that i give a vibe that suggests to strangers to leave me along. generally preferable, but it does complicate barroom pick-ups.
• and i get the vibe, that people do not 'see' my emotions. again, maybe a good thing? but it doesn't feel that way when you're hurting and they just.don't.see.

or what is it about someone that doesn't engender respect, loyalty and consideration?
can you really look at a friend and decide you don't care to consider their feelings?

how do people determine what you are?